I was traveling on a road to go meet this big dj guy who was a friend of derek's bc he just wanted to see how I was doing presumably. As it always happens, he was vibing me but I paid no attention. We were drinking and it got late and we went our separate ways. Then I was backing out of the restaurant still a little drunk-the parking lot was on a slope right next to the street. I saw a car coming and thought I could do a tighter turn within the parking lot but instead I swerved right out into the street. Mysteriously, I didn't hit the car. But then I realized I had no idea how to get home, though I knew the way perfectly before. (this dream was week after I got off prednisone for the bee. I was very depressed from the meds.)
The reason I titled the post this way is that road I was on was similar or even the same as an earlier one from another dream.
Saturday, August 23, 2008
Sunday, September 24, 2006
mothers, deans and maids
1. My friend and I were at my mom's (not my real one but some weird creepy one). We were lying on the bed and she asked us to cover our eyes as she went into some secret place to give us a surprise. I kept one eye open thought. She went into a closet and brought us some very expensive drinks in tea bottles, which looked like it had perfume insignias in it and a sachet of something floating inside. She said you pour it over oranges and it tastes delicious. Later I was with my real mom, and she was showing me all these great bags. I thought they were real gucci bags but she said they were fakes. I asked her how I could get one and she said she bought them in california.
2. I was roommates with these 2 academic deans and they had a maid who was a former dean. The maid asked if I wanted her to go through my stuff, and I said I did NOT want that. Later one of the dean roommates pointed out the maid had gotten accolades for her innovative ways of organizing people's stuff. She showed me a video brochure, but it included pictures of naked women shaving. Very weird.
2. I was roommates with these 2 academic deans and they had a maid who was a former dean. The maid asked if I wanted her to go through my stuff, and I said I did NOT want that. Later one of the dean roommates pointed out the maid had gotten accolades for her innovative ways of organizing people's stuff. She showed me a video brochure, but it included pictures of naked women shaving. Very weird.
Thursday, September 21, 2006
statue, book, forgot a lot of it
1. I'm reading a book, and the author, who seems wholesome and sweet, has pictures of herself in the back that become increasing pornographic as i flipped back.
2. The woman had a huge celebration of her birthday and someone had created a huge, lifelike statue of her with a mattress in the middle that bounced. Even her white, patchy pink skin was emulated perfectly from a distance. When you got up close you could see it was actually pink graffiti. She was sitting on the mattress enjoying it while other people gave her praises. At one point she got off the mattress and some people decided to try it out. I was sitting on it when some young guys started stepping on it with their shoes. I asked them to take off their shoes and they ignored me. I started yelling and they decided to just walk away. I yelled Fuck You !!! really loud at them as they walked away.
2. The woman had a huge celebration of her birthday and someone had created a huge, lifelike statue of her with a mattress in the middle that bounced. Even her white, patchy pink skin was emulated perfectly from a distance. When you got up close you could see it was actually pink graffiti. She was sitting on the mattress enjoying it while other people gave her praises. At one point she got off the mattress and some people decided to try it out. I was sitting on it when some young guys started stepping on it with their shoes. I asked them to take off their shoes and they ignored me. I started yelling and they decided to just walk away. I yelled Fuck You !!! really loud at them as they walked away.
Wednesday, September 20, 2006
anabaptist queens college and obnoxious neighbors
I was somehow connected with a new innovative college in NYC called anabaptist queens college. It was all about encouraging creativity and learning through innovative, unusual teaching methods. There was a video brochure that showed student testimonials of how they were able to complete museum quality sculpture and other fantastic projects. One picture I remember were a bunch of dummies tossed in a bix box with the real artists, smiling from inside the box. But the college was having a hard time with accountability and the state was threatening to shut it down. I believe the video was a response to this threatened shutdown.
I was in a dorm or apartment with a lot of young people, working on a report. Dave and some friends wanted to go. I said they had to wait, because I had to finish what I was doing and put on my shoes. After a while they asked if I was ready, and I still was not. Some random neighbor living above me in a loft started yelling at me about this, and I ranted back at him very angrily - "you don't know my background or anything about me!!!!! how dare you start yelling at me like that!"
I was in a dorm or apartment with a lot of young people, working on a report. Dave and some friends wanted to go. I said they had to wait, because I had to finish what I was doing and put on my shoes. After a while they asked if I was ready, and I still was not. Some random neighbor living above me in a loft started yelling at me about this, and I ranted back at him very angrily - "you don't know my background or anything about me!!!!! how dare you start yelling at me like that!"
nadine and two lecherous men
I was at a new job where two men, an old one and a young one, began making aggressive passes at me after I had worked with them for a while and trusted them.
The building we were in had a lobby. Nadine L was one of the lobby hostesses (I remember most her change after moving to London, adopting a british accent within a year and transforming herself into what she wanted to be, a Euro siren - now she's working in Europe in marketing). I asked her to store a big package wrapped in a white bag for me. I don't remember what it was.
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A career wish dream?
The building we were in had a lobby. Nadine L was one of the lobby hostesses (I remember most her change after moving to London, adopting a british accent within a year and transforming herself into what she wanted to be, a Euro siren - now she's working in Europe in marketing). I asked her to store a big package wrapped in a white bag for me. I don't remember what it was.
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A career wish dream?
Sunday, September 17, 2006
wedding and rocking boat
we were having an engagement party but dave was in dan singer's body - but it was dave. bn was there too, with an and he was friendly. i believed we would even be able to exchange email.
switch to a rocking boat on the water... it was all rusted metal. not sure if the party was on that boat or if it was separate from the dream before that.
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i had been thinking about how i'd been a jerk to ds and felt bad about it. (not as bad as bn had been but similar. good to realize that i've hurt others too). i found a pic of him online - he's doing great, working in intl trade for a big company, looks great too. mom said he's married. at one time before i met dave, i felt pissed that i'd dismissed a good guy like him. i'm happy for him though.
i was feeling depressed yesterday, felt like i'd not lived up to mom's and dad's expectations (though in many ways dad's success was luck as well as hard work), as dave and i walked past all the fancy places along WEA, and the new trump building on 72nd street. dammmit, i would like to have a choice to live there or somewhere fancy like that... for the beauty, the peace of mind that a nice clean environmt gives. dave talked to me about my mental models ... he was very helpful. he is a healer. he also put his hands on me like reiki and unintentionally gave me the energy to get up and walk outside to the reservoir with him (though i still felt like i couldn't run)
switch to a rocking boat on the water... it was all rusted metal. not sure if the party was on that boat or if it was separate from the dream before that.
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i had been thinking about how i'd been a jerk to ds and felt bad about it. (not as bad as bn had been but similar. good to realize that i've hurt others too). i found a pic of him online - he's doing great, working in intl trade for a big company, looks great too. mom said he's married. at one time before i met dave, i felt pissed that i'd dismissed a good guy like him. i'm happy for him though.
i was feeling depressed yesterday, felt like i'd not lived up to mom's and dad's expectations (though in many ways dad's success was luck as well as hard work), as dave and i walked past all the fancy places along WEA, and the new trump building on 72nd street. dammmit, i would like to have a choice to live there or somewhere fancy like that... for the beauty, the peace of mind that a nice clean environmt gives. dave talked to me about my mental models ... he was very helpful. he is a healer. he also put his hands on me like reiki and unintentionally gave me the energy to get up and walk outside to the reservoir with him (though i still felt like i couldn't run)
Saturday, September 02, 2006
Pie and a Cult place
1. Jill Stephenson, a bulimic girl from my class at HA was teaching me, with her mother, how to make a pie and fill it. The pie was more like a cake. They sliced the cake in a circle near the edge and lifted off the cake edges. They then pressed filling through a crack that they opened in the middle, and it seemed very inefficient.
2. Two men were forcing me along, pulling me by my shirt. I struggled but they would not let go. I said quietly,'Help,' to passers by. One brave group took hold of me and refused to let me go with the men, but I asked them to let me go as if nothing happened and to call the police instead, because I knew someone could really get hurt as the men had guns. We arrived at a large area which was filled with cult followers. People who had been forced into this place, like me, were leading meetings. They looked at me as if they were as in much pain as me but recognizing there was nothing that can be done. The men continued to drag me along.
I told susan about this dream, the day before she performed sekh em on me and also gave me a 2nd reading.
This entire summer I worked on a huge data project that was tremendously important for sales. It took up my whole life practically but I enjoyed the challenge. My relationship with DM has been good and getting better. It's been almost 2 years. He now wants to marry me. I think I want to marry him too.
2. Two men were forcing me along, pulling me by my shirt. I struggled but they would not let go. I said quietly,'Help,' to passers by. One brave group took hold of me and refused to let me go with the men, but I asked them to let me go as if nothing happened and to call the police instead, because I knew someone could really get hurt as the men had guns. We arrived at a large area which was filled with cult followers. People who had been forced into this place, like me, were leading meetings. They looked at me as if they were as in much pain as me but recognizing there was nothing that can be done. The men continued to drag me along.
I told susan about this dream, the day before she performed sekh em on me and also gave me a 2nd reading.
This entire summer I worked on a huge data project that was tremendously important for sales. It took up my whole life practically but I enjoyed the challenge. My relationship with DM has been good and getting better. It's been almost 2 years. He now wants to marry me. I think I want to marry him too.
Tuesday, August 22, 2006
Bizarre dreams in one week
1. Yet another BN dream where he actually approaches and talks to me in a friendly way
2. Among other luxuries, I receive a toy plane for with its own pilot. Turns out the friendly pilot is actually a small human, and I find that there are new government regulations that force me to adopt this small human being and treat it well according to the regulations. It's completely bizarre the pilot is so small and looks like a toy.
3. (Night after planning trip to India Himalayas with my new lonely planet guidebooks - talked to Sinta, also going with DM) I am listening in on a mission control that is trying to figure out how to crash land to jet military planes without blowing up an entire water field. They guide the jets to a spot where there is supposedly nothing underneath. There is a closeup of the planes going into the water and I see that at the bottom, there is something that looks like a building or structure there that can blow up. Suddenly I am in the water, as if ejected from one of the jets, swimming furiously to leave the spot where the jets entered the water, getting away from the impending explosion.
4. (same night) I am at a Bloomingdale's in a city, trying to get on a bus home, but it looks like it's only for spa customers to bring them to another building uptown. I have to wait and it's raining.
2. Among other luxuries, I receive a toy plane for with its own pilot. Turns out the friendly pilot is actually a small human, and I find that there are new government regulations that force me to adopt this small human being and treat it well according to the regulations. It's completely bizarre the pilot is so small and looks like a toy.
3. (Night after planning trip to India Himalayas with my new lonely planet guidebooks - talked to Sinta, also going with DM) I am listening in on a mission control that is trying to figure out how to crash land to jet military planes without blowing up an entire water field. They guide the jets to a spot where there is supposedly nothing underneath. There is a closeup of the planes going into the water and I see that at the bottom, there is something that looks like a building or structure there that can blow up. Suddenly I am in the water, as if ejected from one of the jets, swimming furiously to leave the spot where the jets entered the water, getting away from the impending explosion.
4. (same night) I am at a Bloomingdale's in a city, trying to get on a bus home, but it looks like it's only for spa customers to bring them to another building uptown. I have to wait and it's raining.
Tuesday, May 23, 2006
Eastern Music Festival
Part I.
I had to live with Edwin (this smart, geeky black dude. he's someone I knew from MD church but here he's an EMFer.) It was his idea to live in this horrible cheap apartment building with these drug dealer guys who tried to break into your place as soon as you left. I was planning on attending Eastern Music Festival, but was attending a Harvard summer session after I graduated and the last week overlapped with the first week of EMF. When the last week came I realized that I had forgotten my music books, which I needed for auditions the first week. I was wandering the practice rooms and went to the grocery with John Delia (Ceci's boyfriend at EMF) with a group of people. Somehow I was able to find my music books When I got back Edwin asked if I wanted to switch rooms. Dave was there. It was assumed that of course I would stay with him now. But when I got up the next morning, Edwin was sleeping in the other bed and all my stuff obviously been moved and thrown into the drawers. I wondered where Dave was.
Part II.
So I was back on the Guilford College campus for Eastern music festival, living the old life again, but as an adult along with Ceci Black, who was there too as an adult, along with the college and hs students. Ceci and I were talking and I told her they must start an adult division of the camp. I told her my experience as a teenager changed my life. I kept being on the verge of tears (I am still on the verge of tears).
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I heard that wonderful seminar by Prof Rao this past week and it's changing how I see my job, where I've been really restless and unhappy for some time. After his seminar I am much more appreciative of what I have, and got a plan (the once a month challenge - increase my responsibilities in an area I like).
I had to live with Edwin (this smart, geeky black dude. he's someone I knew from MD church but here he's an EMFer.) It was his idea to live in this horrible cheap apartment building with these drug dealer guys who tried to break into your place as soon as you left. I was planning on attending Eastern Music Festival, but was attending a Harvard summer session after I graduated and the last week overlapped with the first week of EMF. When the last week came I realized that I had forgotten my music books, which I needed for auditions the first week. I was wandering the practice rooms and went to the grocery with John Delia (Ceci's boyfriend at EMF) with a group of people. Somehow I was able to find my music books When I got back Edwin asked if I wanted to switch rooms. Dave was there. It was assumed that of course I would stay with him now. But when I got up the next morning, Edwin was sleeping in the other bed and all my stuff obviously been moved and thrown into the drawers. I wondered where Dave was.
Part II.
So I was back on the Guilford College campus for Eastern music festival, living the old life again, but as an adult along with Ceci Black, who was there too as an adult, along with the college and hs students. Ceci and I were talking and I told her they must start an adult division of the camp. I told her my experience as a teenager changed my life. I kept being on the verge of tears (I am still on the verge of tears).
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I heard that wonderful seminar by Prof Rao this past week and it's changing how I see my job, where I've been really restless and unhappy for some time. After his seminar I am much more appreciative of what I have, and got a plan (the once a month challenge - increase my responsibilities in an area I like).
Sunday, April 02, 2006
iraq dream
i was staying at a hotel in iraq. (reminded me of the dream where huge tidal waves were coming at us, knocking down all the hotels on the beach). i was walking along the street, which ran along the beach. all of a sudden, jets started blanketing the sky, filling it with smoke. it was terrifying. then i saw parachuters land. they ran toward us. "i am an american citizen!" i yelled. he told me i must go and get my passport and all of my things. so i ran to the hotel and took the elevator up. on the way i heard a man crying, that he was an iraqi and what was he going to do. i got all of my stuff, debated which pocket to put my passport in, and then ran down the stairs. the soldier met me and we all hustled away. (i started waking up toward the end of this dream)
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with dr riccio i was talking about ocs and what could be behind it. "a feeling of a loss of control," she said. "that's what makes you want to be in control all the time." that made so much sense. i feel like i'm always trying to get in control of things just beyond my control. even if that's not the reality.
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with dr riccio i was talking about ocs and what could be behind it. "a feeling of a loss of control," she said. "that's what makes you want to be in control all the time." that made so much sense. i feel like i'm always trying to get in control of things just beyond my control. even if that's not the reality.
Tuesday, November 22, 2005
most confusing dream ever
i felt silly explaining this one to dave in the morning.
hanging out with christian who was cool, complaining about stupid christian bullshit
first at an outdoor event, then it was a wedding. charlotte from sex and the city was the bride. christian complained about how stupid weddings are, too much money and stress, etc. charlotte agreed with the stress. i gave her a massage.
then i was in the ocean. on a cruise. i am swimming in the ocean next to the ship. it abandons us. the scene changes again, but i am swimming with other people. the ship abandons us once more. i can see me and the other person, figuring out what we should do, as we float out there in the middle of the ocean.
then it's amber's wedding. she's wearing a brown cardigan and a bridal veil. we make fun of the wedding some more, dancing on tables and stuff.
the christian and i are now in nyc, it's right after 9/11 or some disaster and people are walking in single file to the train because of whatever dangerous situation that had been created. we pass a lot of people to get to the subway entrance.
hanging out with christian who was cool, complaining about stupid christian bullshit
first at an outdoor event, then it was a wedding. charlotte from sex and the city was the bride. christian complained about how stupid weddings are, too much money and stress, etc. charlotte agreed with the stress. i gave her a massage.
then i was in the ocean. on a cruise. i am swimming in the ocean next to the ship. it abandons us. the scene changes again, but i am swimming with other people. the ship abandons us once more. i can see me and the other person, figuring out what we should do, as we float out there in the middle of the ocean.
then it's amber's wedding. she's wearing a brown cardigan and a bridal veil. we make fun of the wedding some more, dancing on tables and stuff.
the christian and i are now in nyc, it's right after 9/11 or some disaster and people are walking in single file to the train because of whatever dangerous situation that had been created. we pass a lot of people to get to the subway entrance.
Monday, November 21, 2005
anniversary dreams
our one-year commitment anniversary was this weekend. i've been helping dave with getting a job, and also seeing dr. r again. i read an article about a girl with eating disorders and an object relations analysis of her case for bobby's class. it was very enlightening to think about how the mother and father, and their troubled relationship, worked to create conflict and anxiety in the girl.
dream 1.
i was driving in a car along the subway lines in queens with dave in the back and someone else in the front. we were trying to reach marie, dave's boss, to tell her something. (dave also dreamt he was telling marie about what she's really like, how annoying and controlling she is.) there was an earlier dream but i forgot what it was.
dream 2.
i had a boyfriend who i really liked, but was kind of young. he had an older brother who looked exactly like him who kept hitting on me. because they looked so much alike it almost felt like it might make no difference if i went for him instead. the difference between the was my boyfriend was sort of wimpy and young. but i was definitely not going for the older guy. then it turned out the boyfriend was a scientologist. i went to a meeting with him and everyone started fellowshipping afterwards. the boyfriend had no idea how annoyed i was, espcially about waiting for him so we could go home.
i went downstairs and on the way tried to call dave, but i got the wrong Dave, who aske me if I would describe myself so he could figure out who i was. i just hung up on him and i went through my cell address book to try and call the real dave. the call didn't happen. so when i got downstairs, i started gathering leftover desserts and surreptitiously giving away all these books they gave me. he finally came down, and it was hinted he would reach the upper levels already, called the "life cycles." all these icoc people were there who were also scientologists and they were ooh aahing when this senior person told the boyfriend that "one day" he would be in the life cycles.
then i saw this guy from my job who i really like, but he had MS and was walking around in crutches looking gangly and horrible. i gave him a big hug, and when he went somewhere else to hug people i cried and sobbed. meanwhile the boyfriend was still clueless about what i had seen and tried to comfort me. i was so MAD that he was a scientologist, and was relieved to see my real boyfriend dave, the atheist, waking me up. i told him i was so HAPPY he wasn't a scientologist !!
dream 1.
i was driving in a car along the subway lines in queens with dave in the back and someone else in the front. we were trying to reach marie, dave's boss, to tell her something. (dave also dreamt he was telling marie about what she's really like, how annoying and controlling she is.) there was an earlier dream but i forgot what it was.
dream 2.
i had a boyfriend who i really liked, but was kind of young. he had an older brother who looked exactly like him who kept hitting on me. because they looked so much alike it almost felt like it might make no difference if i went for him instead. the difference between the was my boyfriend was sort of wimpy and young. but i was definitely not going for the older guy. then it turned out the boyfriend was a scientologist. i went to a meeting with him and everyone started fellowshipping afterwards. the boyfriend had no idea how annoyed i was, espcially about waiting for him so we could go home.
i went downstairs and on the way tried to call dave, but i got the wrong Dave, who aske me if I would describe myself so he could figure out who i was. i just hung up on him and i went through my cell address book to try and call the real dave. the call didn't happen. so when i got downstairs, i started gathering leftover desserts and surreptitiously giving away all these books they gave me. he finally came down, and it was hinted he would reach the upper levels already, called the "life cycles." all these icoc people were there who were also scientologists and they were ooh aahing when this senior person told the boyfriend that "one day" he would be in the life cycles.
then i saw this guy from my job who i really like, but he had MS and was walking around in crutches looking gangly and horrible. i gave him a big hug, and when he went somewhere else to hug people i cried and sobbed. meanwhile the boyfriend was still clueless about what i had seen and tried to comfort me. i was so MAD that he was a scientologist, and was relieved to see my real boyfriend dave, the atheist, waking me up. i told him i was so HAPPY he wasn't a scientologist !!
Saturday, November 19, 2005
recurring attack in dream
my social anxiety disorder ... dave and i were at a dinner last night where i felt like i looked shy and dumb. he said i see myself wrong, that i sound brilliant and ask wonderful questions and listen well also. it's our anniversary today. :)
FBI or Charlie manson-like followers surround our house (the one on barnwood). The back door is open, the garage door is open, and I'm trying to close both. I also try to dial 911 but it doesnt work.
This time, mom's in the kitchen and I ask her to close the backdoor and garage. I see people through the back windows. She's making food and doesn't believe me. I do try to do it all myself. The garage door is closing but people are able to get underneath. I realize in the dream that I don't have any weapons, so I go back into the dream with machine guns. But all I can do is shoot around them, I can't shoot them except maybe to hit someone's arm or foot.
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I was working for an elementary school as some type of teacher/administrator, and I had a rebellious brother who I had to give a job. He had a huge monstrous fire-power type car that he parked outside the school. So his job was to watch these two girls after school. I asked the girls to tell me if he is ever inappropriate or weird. Sure enough, they tell me he spoke sexually with them. So I tried to find a private room for us to talk about and document the incident, but there were classes, teachers' lounges, etc. only filled with people, no empty rooms. Finally we did find a room and then I woke up.
FBI or Charlie manson-like followers surround our house (the one on barnwood). The back door is open, the garage door is open, and I'm trying to close both. I also try to dial 911 but it doesnt work.
This time, mom's in the kitchen and I ask her to close the backdoor and garage. I see people through the back windows. She's making food and doesn't believe me. I do try to do it all myself. The garage door is closing but people are able to get underneath. I realize in the dream that I don't have any weapons, so I go back into the dream with machine guns. But all I can do is shoot around them, I can't shoot them except maybe to hit someone's arm or foot.
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I was working for an elementary school as some type of teacher/administrator, and I had a rebellious brother who I had to give a job. He had a huge monstrous fire-power type car that he parked outside the school. So his job was to watch these two girls after school. I asked the girls to tell me if he is ever inappropriate or weird. Sure enough, they tell me he spoke sexually with them. So I tried to find a private room for us to talk about and document the incident, but there were classes, teachers' lounges, etc. only filled with people, no empty rooms. Finally we did find a room and then I woke up.
Tuesday, March 29, 2005
sadness
dave realized he has an issue with alcohol. at my karaoke birthday thing he did awful things that he doesn't even remember. mom could sense there was something wrong but i couldn't tell her.
dave's issues remind me of ted - the manic episodes triggered by alcohol and substances.
dream
i was living with the family in a pretty white house in a neighborhood where homes are close together. it was night and i was sneaking into the house through the back with my key. i got into the house and was headed upstairs to my bedroom when ted started blasting music on the ground floor. i got into my bedroom, and mom came by sensing i was worried. she asked me if it was about american idol. of course it was not - it was about dave, but i didn't tell her.
dave's issues remind me of ted - the manic episodes triggered by alcohol and substances.
dream
i was living with the family in a pretty white house in a neighborhood where homes are close together. it was night and i was sneaking into the house through the back with my key. i got into the house and was headed upstairs to my bedroom when ted started blasting music on the ground floor. i got into my bedroom, and mom came by sensing i was worried. she asked me if it was about american idol. of course it was not - it was about dave, but i didn't tell her.
Saturday, March 05, 2005
promotion
this week i told dr r about work. my boss got a huge promotion and i probably will too. and i said how it increases my fears that i feel like i do dorky things without realizing i do. i'm constantly trying to figure out how i "really" look like to people because i know my own self-image is not accurate. she said this kind of thinking is common among people abused as children, and it's another form of self-attack.
dream #1 from yesterday
dave comes over. i am happy to see him, and we eat dinner. i am in the kitchen and start eating while he's in my bedroom, far at the other end of the apartment. i realize he's far, and he comes over to see me in the kitchen. for some reason it is hard for us try to get together and eat in the same spot in the apt. i miss him. --i then woke up and im'ed asking for him to come over.--
dream #2
a friend shows us their house. it has an extensive set of rooms in the basement apartments, which have been rented out to 2 people. to get to the stairs leading down, we have to climb over a column at the back wall of a ground level room. i remember wondering why it was so hard to walk into.
dream #3
i have been hanging out at a party with some jock kids and got along with them. later i was outside. as i approached a volleyball game they were playing, the head of the jocks asked me to come and play in a friendly way. i called her a bitch and refused angrily. they were all surprised and thought i was totally weird. i walked away. on my way home i had to walk through several rooms in a building under construction. i was barefoot, and the ground was wet. thought i saw broken glass. i walked through anyway, and didn't think i'd have any problems. when i got home, my feet were wet and had huge pores in them. at first it looked like there was no glass in my foot, but then i saw tiny shiny pieces of glass sticking out. when i pulled at them, a giant piece of glass came out. there were about 6 pieces that i pulled out. it felt good.
dream #4
i was with hernan in paris, don't remember what happened but it felt like old times.
dream #1 from yesterday
dave comes over. i am happy to see him, and we eat dinner. i am in the kitchen and start eating while he's in my bedroom, far at the other end of the apartment. i realize he's far, and he comes over to see me in the kitchen. for some reason it is hard for us try to get together and eat in the same spot in the apt. i miss him. --i then woke up and im'ed asking for him to come over.--
dream #2
a friend shows us their house. it has an extensive set of rooms in the basement apartments, which have been rented out to 2 people. to get to the stairs leading down, we have to climb over a column at the back wall of a ground level room. i remember wondering why it was so hard to walk into.
dream #3
i have been hanging out at a party with some jock kids and got along with them. later i was outside. as i approached a volleyball game they were playing, the head of the jocks asked me to come and play in a friendly way. i called her a bitch and refused angrily. they were all surprised and thought i was totally weird. i walked away. on my way home i had to walk through several rooms in a building under construction. i was barefoot, and the ground was wet. thought i saw broken glass. i walked through anyway, and didn't think i'd have any problems. when i got home, my feet were wet and had huge pores in them. at first it looked like there was no glass in my foot, but then i saw tiny shiny pieces of glass sticking out. when i pulled at them, a giant piece of glass came out. there were about 6 pieces that i pulled out. it felt good.
dream #4
i was with hernan in paris, don't remember what happened but it felt like old times.
Saturday, February 12, 2005
getting ahead
trying to figure out work politics lately. getting my mind to think in terms of working with "my teams." it's shaping how i approach people and how i prioritize my workload... skills for the future and my film. i still feel inept even when people tell me i'm brilliant. etc.
i was running a foot race in a city. i had the ability to leap forward (crouching tiger stuff). there were rumors that a man was ahead of everyone else. i realized that it was actually me. we got to a pole we were supposed to hit (instead of a ribbon). i struggled against #2 to put my hand there first. the other girl, who looked like bridgette, put her hands on top of mine. so there was a bit of a debate.
we had a victory banquet. the food was incredible. calamari, oysters, etc. but i didn't feel like i was being handed the whole victory.
i tried to leave through a one-person wide stairway. i could get past most people though it was difficult. then this fat asian chick came along and had an attitude that i was trying to pass by.
i was running a foot race in a city. i had the ability to leap forward (crouching tiger stuff). there were rumors that a man was ahead of everyone else. i realized that it was actually me. we got to a pole we were supposed to hit (instead of a ribbon). i struggled against #2 to put my hand there first. the other girl, who looked like bridgette, put her hands on top of mine. so there was a bit of a debate.
we had a victory banquet. the food was incredible. calamari, oysters, etc. but i didn't feel like i was being handed the whole victory.
i tried to leave through a one-person wide stairway. i could get past most people though it was difficult. then this fat asian chick came along and had an attitude that i was trying to pass by.
Friday, January 21, 2005
commitment
we hang out every single day; he took care of me while i was sick this whole week. "i'm taking care of you today," he said. yesterday he bought me this cute toy pug !!! he mentions marriage sometimes, often while drunk, and gradually while sober... i feel such split feelings over marriage in general. but i woke up early at 5AM one morning last week. it dawned on me that i could totally marry him, that i totally felt he was my soul mate. but i always waver. i guess that's normal. it needs to stand the test of time.
his cousin gerald, who i knew as my neighbor a few years ago, "re-met" me as dave's girl and he called dave to say that we looked really good together! that i seem really comfortable with dave. that i looked beautiful. he called just to say that. dave thought that was so sweet. so did i.
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(dave's only symbolically in this dream)
we were promoting the new world trade center, which was to be two sky-high building connected by a bridge. the women and men were to get people to this party. it felt very icoc but i kept getting reassured that it had nothing to do with it. steve johnson was there, though.
the women decided to start by making a list of all the girls they knew whose name started with an "M." the guys started with the guys they knew from "A" to somewhere in the middle of the alphabet. they had a lot more people, and they gathered on some flat plot of ground near the construction site at the corner of "D" street. i was still confused about the purpose of all this. was it for a party to set off the opening, or what? the guys started what looked like a devo on the D street spot. (nowhere in nyc is there a D street, only in washington...)
then there were some arguments b/w architects over the structure of the building, because it's original plans were altered.
his cousin gerald, who i knew as my neighbor a few years ago, "re-met" me as dave's girl and he called dave to say that we looked really good together! that i seem really comfortable with dave. that i looked beautiful. he called just to say that. dave thought that was so sweet. so did i.
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(dave's only symbolically in this dream)
we were promoting the new world trade center, which was to be two sky-high building connected by a bridge. the women and men were to get people to this party. it felt very icoc but i kept getting reassured that it had nothing to do with it. steve johnson was there, though.
the women decided to start by making a list of all the girls they knew whose name started with an "M." the guys started with the guys they knew from "A" to somewhere in the middle of the alphabet. they had a lot more people, and they gathered on some flat plot of ground near the construction site at the corner of "D" street. i was still confused about the purpose of all this. was it for a party to set off the opening, or what? the guys started what looked like a devo on the D street spot. (nowhere in nyc is there a D street, only in washington...)
then there were some arguments b/w architects over the structure of the building, because it's original plans were altered.
Sunday, December 19, 2004
night out w.dave's FAPOS crew
dave's friend terry has the most adorable baby in the universe, Kiera... sje looks like a little kewpie doll. dave was nervous about his friend's g/f who he was seeing for 1st time after a falling out. went back to his place and chilled with everyone... edwin did pushups in the street and dave almost gave $40 to a driver for $23 ride (!) but he got his money back. i started to feel insecure as i always do in groups... though they are the most chill guys. all of them are so nice and bright and interesting. his friendship with stefan, in particular, is beautiful. i'm so glad i have a best friend too in bobby. i wish i had a group friends like them who had known me from high school in the same city, who have no bullshit when it comes to realness and friendship. dave is so lucky... but i do have my crew: bobby, libre, even the bronx artists... they make up for those sad times.
it's so amazing that i can tell dave how i feel, how i get "antisocial" seeming with groups of people... that i can tell him what hurts me and he doesn't get mad but totally gets it. (**I AM** the luckiest girl in the world!)
i wish i could be as comfortable speaking to a group of people as he is. i love that about him.
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jj ordered some chinese food. i had ordered some special food earlier to coincide at the same time. when our food finally arrived, i looked for the "special" food but couldn't find it at first. right when i was about to get upset, the food showed up at the door (or was it hidden and i found it?)
i was at my "family's" house (not the real one) and i was terrified, trying to hide under the bed because my abusive father (not the real one) was hunting the whole family down. i remembered that he had slashed words into our wrists with a knife. i was so scared, afraid to get found...
i thought i was awake...
later after the incident, i asked dave to come walk w/me to talk about the terrifying incident in the house and the abuse i had encountered with the family (the dream one). he and i went out on amsterdam and i was looking for a good coffee shop.
then we were lying in bed in his apartment, and it turned out his apartment had two floors with a dominican family living above. the dominicans had to come down through his bedroom in order to exit the apartment. they came down, had their coats on as if coming from or going to a party. some went through the door, others to the kitchen to do stuff. finally they all left. i felt annoyed but resigned at the same time, at the inconvenience...
it's so amazing that i can tell dave how i feel, how i get "antisocial" seeming with groups of people... that i can tell him what hurts me and he doesn't get mad but totally gets it. (**I AM** the luckiest girl in the world!)
i wish i could be as comfortable speaking to a group of people as he is. i love that about him.
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jj ordered some chinese food. i had ordered some special food earlier to coincide at the same time. when our food finally arrived, i looked for the "special" food but couldn't find it at first. right when i was about to get upset, the food showed up at the door (or was it hidden and i found it?)
i was at my "family's" house (not the real one) and i was terrified, trying to hide under the bed because my abusive father (not the real one) was hunting the whole family down. i remembered that he had slashed words into our wrists with a knife. i was so scared, afraid to get found...
i thought i was awake...
later after the incident, i asked dave to come walk w/me to talk about the terrifying incident in the house and the abuse i had encountered with the family (the dream one). he and i went out on amsterdam and i was looking for a good coffee shop.
then we were lying in bed in his apartment, and it turned out his apartment had two floors with a dominican family living above. the dominicans had to come down through his bedroom in order to exit the apartment. they came down, had their coats on as if coming from or going to a party. some went through the door, others to the kitchen to do stuff. finally they all left. i felt annoyed but resigned at the same time, at the inconvenience...
Tuesday, December 14, 2004
i love him
i am totally and ridiculously and wholly in love with dave. i am not afraid. no doubts anymore.... he loves me and wants me and desires me... i feel it down to my bones and i see it in his eyes. i see it and feel it and know it.
i've been looking for you... i've found you. what he whispered to me in the kitchen outside of book club... he says it for me.
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i was in a museum. i was coming down an escalator that led to some
gardens. people were waiting in a line. bobby was in
the line and dave was too.
bobby had a cell phone and he programmed it so that he
could give me some money through it. he handed it to
me. but dave took it from me and added more money to
it; then dave gave it to me.
i've been looking for you... i've found you. what he whispered to me in the kitchen outside of book club... he says it for me.
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i was in a museum. i was coming down an escalator that led to some
gardens. people were waiting in a line. bobby was in
the line and dave was too.
bobby had a cell phone and he programmed it so that he
could give me some money through it. he handed it to
me. but dave took it from me and added more money to
it; then dave gave it to me.
Sunday, December 05, 2004
ROTK EE
the ongoing themes for me... conflicts about pleasure vs. duty ... an esoteric dream. this is a hard one.
we had seen the EE of ROTK that night. i was crying like crazy at all the scenes, old and new... especially the coronation, and faramir meets eowyn. met the FAPOS for the first time. edwin was loud. i was trying to be loud with him and as it usually happens i came out sounding dumb sometimes. oh it just takes practice...
that same night ** dreamed he was looking for me after a hellish time in grad school earlier in the dream. my "ex," some hot guy was following him like gollum, and asked ** for anal sex. he refused and grabbed/broke a wine bottle to protect himself from the ex.
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i was a little blond boy in a one-room schoolhouse. my teacher had me setting up tables with napkins and plates as "work" in exchange for 5% off my lunch. i as myself had ordered weed from a dealer, who was waiting in the school's basketball court. the teacher told the little blond boy to go to the dealer because he was supposed to be a role model or mentor. when i as little boy went to the basketball court, i saw they were throwing a party for me. bobby was by the court preparing food. there were tables and tables of food.
we had seen the EE of ROTK that night. i was crying like crazy at all the scenes, old and new... especially the coronation, and faramir meets eowyn. met the FAPOS for the first time. edwin was loud. i was trying to be loud with him and as it usually happens i came out sounding dumb sometimes. oh it just takes practice...
that same night ** dreamed he was looking for me after a hellish time in grad school earlier in the dream. my "ex," some hot guy was following him like gollum, and asked ** for anal sex. he refused and grabbed/broke a wine bottle to protect himself from the ex.
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i was a little blond boy in a one-room schoolhouse. my teacher had me setting up tables with napkins and plates as "work" in exchange for 5% off my lunch. i as myself had ordered weed from a dealer, who was waiting in the school's basketball court. the teacher told the little blond boy to go to the dealer because he was supposed to be a role model or mentor. when i as little boy went to the basketball court, i saw they were throwing a party for me. bobby was by the court preparing food. there were tables and tables of food.